It is time to start reclaiming your authentic self. We live in a lifetime where life is busy. There is always something to do, places to go and people to see. As healers we tend to take time from our self to help as many people as we can. Putting all our attention on other people’s needs. Suddenly, we have forgotten about ourselves and the basic needs that we have aligned to in this life. Old patterns are re-enforced, and it is time to let them go.
How did we develop these patterns?
We learn very early in life to disconnect our feelings and hide them. For example, children adjust their beliefs and ideas in the first days of school. We where told “don’t you cry and let the other kids know your scared, they will tease you”. And sure enough that is what would happen. If the class laughed, everyone laughed. This would carry over into every situation through out school. If they expressed their feelings or emotions, they got picked on or laughed at. We learned very quickly if you pretend not to care or to react, you would fit into the norm.
Parenting has an affect.
Another cause of hiding your authentic self is having strict parents. Or if they had overly high expectations for the child. Remember this can be real or perceived by the child, their inner self does not know the difference. The child must hide their real feelings in order to make the parent happy or not be punished physically or mentally. Have you ever heard “if you don’t stop crying, I will give you something to cry about”? It is learned very quickly to hide themselves for protection.
What is the consequences in adulthood?
When one becomes disconnected for our authentic self they do not look after them selves first. They are in a continual state of anxiety, always stressing about what to say or how to say it. They become numb to themselves for relief. Their relationships suffer with their family, friends and even spouses. And they have a hard time communicating on an interment level with anyone. Self development is always on the back burner and life becomes very different on the outward appearance then on the inside. In some cases, depression can become a reality.
Reclaiming your authentic self.
First one needs to look at where did this pattern start and how was it protecting me? Get a sense of where it all started so your can accept it and let it go. At an Akashic perspective, if this issue started with the way your parents raised you. We want to take the energy off this and release it. The reality is they really did the best they could. If they new of a better way they would have done it. This was probably the way they where raised.
You do not have to like what they did or even condone it. You do not even have to adapt it and for sure you do not put yourself or your children in harms way. All you want to do is accept it and release the energy off it. In some cases, you may want to or need to go for professional counselling, but this is a good start. You can apply this to what ever the beginning point is for your pattern.
What empowers you?
Now you have a beginning point to start bring back the real authentic you. Try adopting some practices that will empower the real you. Start by putting yourself back into the number one position. Take time for personal care and development. Join a yoga class. Maybe a meditation group once a week, something that you enjoy just for yourself. It is a good idea to start meditating daily as well.
You are an adult know and you are aware of your actions and how you express your self to others. It is time for you to tell people how you really feel. You can do this without being offensive or mean. It is important that you speak up for yourself. This is one way to empower you as an individual. It also takes a lot of anxiety out of your life by not building up resentments. Start a gratitude journal about what makes you grateful in your life. This can be life changing. You are the only you there will ever be and there will never again be another person the same as you. Take ownership of your perfection.
Questions you can ask in your Akashic Records or your Intuitive self.
- Where can I find a safe space to sit in my inner being or inner pillar that I can connect with my Authentic Self? You might be comfortable being in the middle of your heart chakra, or maybe closer to your solar plexus, or even closer to your sacral centre. Once you find that safe space settle in and connect with the real you.
- You can ask, is there anything that is holding me back from connecting to my Authentic self, in this lifetime? What can I do to let this go?
- What can I do to strengthen my awareness of who I really am? It might be like meditating every day for five minutes. Going into your Akashic Records on a daily basis or taking a quit walk in the park connecting into yourself. Make sure what ever you get that you can maintain doing it, if not ask to have it broken down a little for you. Make it achievable.
- Can I love myself even though I am having difficulty seeing and feeling my own perfection?
- Give yourself a BIG HUG. You are perfect standing in your authentic you.